Archive for October, 2008

The Personal Peace Procedure is a wonderful tool that I offer to all of my clients and students. The idea is to write down all of the problems you have, and systematically tap on them.

Gary Craig says that if you don’t have at least 100 items on your list, you probably haven’t been paying attention!

I like to encourage people to put their problems into broad categories and then break them down into smaller and smaller components. By helping people to organize their problems, it becomes much easier to get to the specifics of an issue.

For instance, a person might be dealing with lots of issues about work. If that person just wrote down: “I hate my job” and tried to tap on that, they probably wouldn’t get very far because it isn’t specific enough. What I encourage people to do is to follow one of the many useful metaphors for getting very specific.

For instance, if we were producing a movie of your life, “hating my job” might be a scene in that movie. We want to get to just ONE FRAME of that scene. You might want to list many “frames” from that scene, but each one would become a tappable issue.

So, the scene would be “I Hate My Job,” and some of the “frames” of the scene might be:

1. The boss told me that my report “stunk” at a staff meeting.
2. My secretary Sally spilled coffee all over my desk.
3. Three of my colleagues complained about me in one day.

In my upcoming Personal Peace Workshop, I will teach you how to organize your issues so that you can develop your own Personal Peace Journal.

We refer to the activity as “personal peace” because the commitment to tap every single day on major issues, would certainly lead to a feeling of peace!

I encourage all of you to send me topics of interest to you, and I will write about them.

How many of you have experienced Borrowing Benefits? It is something that tends to happen when a group of people get together and tap using EFT.

Simply, you tap for another person and totally concentrate on them and their problem (even if it has nothing to do with you). At the end of the session, you notice that your own issues are greatly relived or totally resolved.

Personally, I have witnessed this occurrence many times. It happens a lot during couple or family sessions, workshops, and my monthly Borrowing Benefits groups. One of the many advantages of being an EFT Practitioner is that every single time I work with a client and tap with them, I benefit with my own issues!

My theory is that there is great power in tapping with a group of people. Energy is moving, even when you are not at all focused on yourself. What a great feeling it is to tap for another person, and realize that your own problems seem to fall away effortlessly!

“Making Strides Against Breast Cancer” was the name of the 5 mile walk I did on Sunday, October 18, 2008. Here’s a picture of me (in purple) in the front row of the hundreds of breast cancer survivors who participated. Thousands more supporters walked with us along the lakefront in Chicago on a perfectly beautiful Fall day.

What struck me most was the joyful energy of the day. We marched and laughed and soaked up the sun. It didn’t matter if we were only a few months past treatment, or in my case, 14 years surviving (and thriving).

Attitude is everything, and I saw no one feeling sorry for themselves, or projecting any kind of fear. My shirt said it all: “Live Life Better, Not Just Different.” It wasn’t enough that we all LIVED and got to wear our pink medals. We showed a sense of celebrating life and showing up.

I would have changed the name of the march if I could. Even when I told people about the walk and asked for donations, I called it: “Walk for a Cure.” I really embrace Mother Teresa’s attitude. She said: “Don’t invite me to a March AGAINST War because I won’t come. But if you invite me to a march FOR Peace, I’ll be there!”

Thanks to all of you who made donations. I was the second highest fundraiser in my group!

I have a very personal connection to October’s emphasis on Breast Cancer Awareness. I am a grateful 14 year survivor (and thriver) of that common disease. Please read my recent article about using EFT to help a woman get past her fears when she discovered a lump in her breast.

The most important point I want to make is that I believe that the worst “cancer” is the fear itself about the disease, the treatment, and the outcome. How I wish I knew about EFT back when I was going through my own lumpectomy, chemo and radiation!

My client believes that EFT actually caused her tumor to shrink and to become benign. I have no proof of that, and I feel it would be irresponsible of me to make any such claims. What I do know is that tapping away the fears connected to any illness is enormously beneficial.

The list of legitimate concerns for women who discover a lump in their breast covers many topics:

• fear of death
• loss of a breast
• inability to work
• worries about health coverage
• fears about chemotherapy
• fears about radiation
• fears about spousal support
• fears about loss of attractiveness

If you discover a lump in your breast (and please do conduct regular monthly breast exams), there are a number of simple things you can do:

• Make a doctor’s appointment right away.
• Do lots of tapping on whatever fears come up for you.
• Gather positive, supportive people around you.
• Take a friend with you to your doctor’s appointment.
• Pray for a positive outcome (if you pray).
• Make a list of positive Choices and tap on them after your fears are greatly diminished.
• Call me (or another EFT Practitioner) for extra support.

Remember: fear is the worst kind of cancer. Do everything you can to keep it in check. Most cancers can be cured with early detection. So, tap away those fears and trust that you will be fine!

If you know anyone struggling with breast cancer, who might benefit from a telephone EFT session, please let them know that during the month of October and November, 2008 I am offering one free phone session for any breast cancer survivors who contact me at: (773) 880-5492 or email me.

Also, if you would like to sponsor my “Walk for a Cure,” please follow this link and make donations on-line to the “American Cancer Society.” 

Blessings,

Kiya 

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month in the United States, and it was because of the extra emphasis on breast exams last year that my client, “Molly,” discovered a lump in her left breast. Before she went to her doctor’s appointment, Molly worked with me over the phone about her intense fears:

Even though I’m terrified that I have cancer….

Even though I’m afraid that I’ll have to have a masectomy…

Even though I’m scared that I’ll have to go through chemo and radiation…

Even though I’m afraid that my husband won’t love me anymore if I lose my breast…

Even though I’m so afraid that my little girl will have to grow up without a mother…

All of her fears were a “10″ and she was unable to sleep or think about anything except her worst case scenario fantasies. When we got all her fears down below a “3,” we started working on Choices for her doctor’s appointment the next day:

I choose to sleep peacefully through the night tonight…

I choose to be calm when I go to the doctor.

I choose to be optimistic.

I choose to pray…

I choose to hear good news…

I choose to have a benign tumor…

I choose to be free…

I choose to be happy…

I choose to be healthy…

I choose peace…

By the end of our phone session, Molly was laughing and joking and ready to go to sleep. We tested our work together by having Molly describe her worst fears about seeing the doctor and she tried to get upset, and couldn’t.

The next evening, I got a wonderful phone call from Molly. “I have great news! I tapped before I went to bed and slept through the night. When I got up, I checked my breast and I could have sworn that the lump was much smaller! When the doctor did a needle biopsy, he was able to tell me almost immediately that the lump was benign!”

Molly believes that EFT “cured” her cancer. I wouldn’t say that. What I do believe is that the worst kind of cancer is fear, and that EFT definitely cured Molly of her debilitating fears. Another great victory for EFT!

P.S. In honor of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and to celebrate that I have personally survived and thrived for 14 years, I am offering one free EFT phone session to any breast cancer survivor who would like to make an appointment with me during October or November, 2008!