Goodbye, dear friend.

I haven’t written much this month because I have been dealing with my Mom being hospitalized, and my friend getting suddenly very ill and dying on Friday. Tomorrow is his funeral and he was only in his early ’50’s. I will miss him very much. My Mom, who is 93, is in Rehab now and hopefully will be home soon.

I am reminded of the fragility of life. And the importance of treasuring the people who touch your life, and remembering to let them know how much you care. To all of you who read my newsletter and blog, I send you blessings and caritas. I like that word, “caritas” because it implies a sweet, platonic kind of love. Some of you I have never met, and don’t even know, but just the fact that you take the time to read my words touches my heart.

As I deal with my own grief, I am reminded of the on-going discussions about tapping under these circumstances. So often, when a person comes to me dealing with grief, there is a sense of resistance. Often, people feel that it is disrespectful to their loved one to try to move past their grief too soon.

I always remind people that we tap, not to change our love for someone who has died, but to shift away from obsessive or morbid thoughts, and to pave the way to be able to function again. I believe that when we shift the energy around a great loss, then the love comes to the surface more easily.

My mantra continues to be: “Try it on everything.” In my own case, I will tap on my fears about my Mom’s illness, and my grief that my friend is gone from this physical realm. I know that I will soon be able to get to the “Choices” and I will begin to say: I choose to remember my friend when he was healthy; I choose to be happy that he is free of pain; I choose to celebrate that I had the chance to know him, however briefly; I choose to be glad for my faith as I imagine him in Heaven; I choose peace for him and I choose peace for me.

Blessings,

Kiya