I was once asked why I don’t participate in anti-war demonstrations.
I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace
rally, I’ll be there.
- Mother Teresa

I agree with Mother Teresa. I think it makes a lot more sense to dedicate a month to the awareness of breast health, rather than breast cancer. Sometimes people I train get confused when there seems to be so much emphasis on the negative emotions when it comes to tapping.

Here is the explanation. So often, I work with people who develop an on-going script about their problems: I am very insecure; I don’t fit in anywhere; my life sucks; I’m too old (or too fat or too terminally unique) to find a partner, etc.

The person may repeat these negative opinions repeatedly every day to themselves and to other people. Then, the negative phrase is deeply imbeded in the psyche to the point that the person believes that these negative self-talk statements actually define who they are.

Rather than ignore the negative self-talk, tapping encourages you to repeat the negative statement while tapping so that you can move in the direction of resolution. If we ignore the negative statement, it will fester just underneath the surface. I believe it is the main reason why simple affirmations never seem to work.

If I believe that I am an insecure person and tell myself that is the case, then I will zero in on every occasion when I feel that way as absolute proof that it is “true.” If I repeat the affirmation over and over again: I am a self-assured, confident person, my mind will say right back: No, you’re not!

With tapping, I say the phrase I am very insecure about all kinds of things while I am letting go of the energy connected to the phrase. Then, and only then, can I begin to interject the positive alternative and my subconscious mind will accept it.

For instance, I could say three times on the Karate Chop point: I am very insecure about meeting Lucille for dinner because I’m afraid that I’ll have nothing to say and it makes me feel afraid, inadequate, and tongue-tied. I would measure the intensity of each of those feelings and then come up with a positive statement: Even though —- I have this problem—-and it makes me feel—————, I accept myself anyway.

Then on each tapping point, I can express my insecurities until they begin to fall away. If I said originally that my fear was a “9,” I can check in after several rounds and ask myself: is my fear still a “9?” If the number has moved down, I will keep tapping until I get to a “zero.”

Then, affirmations will actually begin to work because the subconscious will no longer fight the positive statement. I can now say: I am a self-assured, confident person and I will easily have a good conversation with Lucille at dinner.

So, in general for the month of October, I suggest proclaiming the positive name “Breast Health Awareness Month,” while at the same time, be sure to tap away any fears or concerns that come up for you.

During October, remember that any cancer survivor who contacts me is entitled to a free 15 minute consultation and 2 sessions for the price of one.

Contact Kiya at (773) 880-5492 or email me