Dear Tapper,

Matrix Reimprinting is the latest cutting-edge variation on EFT that takes the process to a whole new level.  If you have taken EFT Level 1 and 2 (or its equivalent) from me or another practitioner, you are eligible to take this exciting advanced class in Chicago on June 23 and June 24, 2012.  Seating is very limited, so I encourage you to sign up right away.

The regular cost is $395 for the two day workshop, but if you sign up before June 1, 2012, you can enroll for only $365.

If you have not yet taken Level 1 and Level 2, please contact me to arrange for private tutoring before the workshop in June.  Level 1 is a 6 hour workshop and Level 2 is a 12 hour workshop.  If enough people are interested, I am willing to do a 3-day “Bootcamp” to have you earn a Level 1 and Level 2 Certificate in time for the Advanced Training in Matrix Reimprinting.

I am also offering weekly refresher classes and opportunities to practice your EFT skills for $50 a class.  The usual fee for Level 1 is $150 and Level 2 is $250, but if you sign up and pre-pay for both, you can receive 18 hours of training for $365.

Please call or e-mail me for more information:  (773) 880-5492 or: kiya@eft-tap.com.

If you have all the necessary qualifications, you can sign up now on the Matrix Reimprinting in Chicago website at: 

www.tapyourpower.net/ChicagoMatrixReimprinting.html

My dear friend and colleague, Alina Frank is coming to Chicago from the Seattle area to offer this very advanced Training.  Don’t miss this exciting opportunity.

Blessings,

Kiya

Adam Kahn wrote a very interesting article published on the Internet recently about the many different ways we all tend to talk to ourselves. I noticed right away that being aware of our negative self-talk can do wonders to help break that habit. And if we tap along while we’re doing it, it can be twice as powerful.

Kahn wrote about several possible ways to talk to yourself. Think about how often you talk to yourself by putting yourself down. Here’s where tapping comes in. You might look in a mirror before a party and start tapping:

Even though I look like hell and feel like a loser and it makes me feel scared to show up at this party, I’m willing to accept myself anyway….

Another way is to reassure yourself. For example, before a party you might be feeling a little nervous so you tell yourself: It’s going to be fine. It’ll turn out okay. You might choose to interject some of the Choices method here, especially if your anxiety is very low: Even though I have a little bit of nervous feeling about this party, I choose to be comfortable… Then, as you go to each tapping point, you could say: I choose to be confident; I choose to feel good about how I look; I choose to have a good time, etc.

Or you could ask yourself a question. On your way to the party, you could ask yourself: What can I do tonight that would make it genuinely fun? According to Kahn, of all the possible ways to talk to yourself, asking yourself a question is the most powerful. Questions direct your mind and set trains of thought into motion. That’s what makes them so powerful. Questions generate thought. And because they are so powerful it is important to ask yourself good questions.

Fortunately, with EFT, you can neutralize the bad questions that might come up on the way to a party: What if I can’t think of anything to say? What if I embarrass myself? What if I’m a loser for the rest of my life and I never get married and live alone and shunned by the world? The what-if questions are creating thoughts and images that produce feelings of anxiety.

What makes a good question? A high-quality question has a good result. It focuses your attention on something that makes you effective. It directs your mind to something that helps you successfully handle the situation. A question is good if it leads to a good result.

Bad question: What if they don’t like me? Good question: What is something I could do right now that would make me more likable? Using tapping, you could do a couple of rounds to neutralize the negative “what-if” question and then move into tapping to come up with creative answers to positive questions. You could tap on a round of positive answers for the above question: I could tell a joke; I could be a very attentive listener; I could help serve drinks; I could join conversations about topics I know…

Ask yourself questions that lead to good results.

And remember, we have very limited seating for the exciting, upcoming Matrix Re-imprinting Class in June in Chicago. You have to complete the equivalent of EFT Level 1 and 2 to be eligible to take the course. Please contact me to see if you are eligible. If not, you can attend my Trainings, or a Refresher Class to prepare you for this very advanced and innovative process. Call or email me at: 773-880-5492 or kiya@eft-tap.com

IN LIKE A LAMB

March comes in like a lion and out like a lamb.

In my case, March is coming in like a lamb and I am quite pleased about it.  Winters in my hometown of Chicago can be quite brutal.  Traditionally, the first week of March is terribly cold and very snowy.  This week, however, we have had no snow and temperatures as high as 60 degrees.

Because of the constant scary predictions of an especially awful winter this year, I was very nervous about it.  I realize that I often forget to tap for myself in such situations.                                               Now that we have had an incredibly mild winter, I realize that I could have saved myself a lot of unnecessary fear and anxiety if I simply tapped:

K.C.    Even though I’m scared about the upcoming winter, I accept myself anyway.

E.B.     This terrible winter.

S.E.     I believe the predictions.                     

U.E.    It will be awful.                                   

U.N.    I won’t be able to stand the cold.

Ch       I won’t want to leave the house.                     

C.B.    This terrible winter.

U.A.    I won’t be able to stand it..

R.C.    This terrible winter.                

Wr.     This terrible winter.

T.H.    This terrible winter.

(Karate Chop; Eye Brow; Side of Eye; Under Eye; Under Nose; Chin; Collar Bone; Under Arm; Rib Cage; Wrists; Top of Head).

Think about a time or circumstance when you have stressed out about something bad that you are convinced will happen in the future.  Instead of dwelling on it for hours or days at a time, give yourself permission to go into your fears (and even exaggerate them), as long as you tap while you are doing it.

For example, you convince yourself that you’ll never be able to pass your exam for school no matter how hard you study.  By fretting over it, you may actually prevent yourself from studying properly so you can pass the exam.

In a case like that, where you are predicting a disaster without knowing all of the facts, I suggest trying “Exaggerated Tapping.”  It goes like this:

K.C.    Even though I’m terrified that I will flunk my exam, I accept myself anyway.

E.B.     I’m going to flunk this test.

S.E.     And then I’ll flunk out of school.                    

U.E.    It will be awful.                                   

U.N.    I won’t be able to get a job.

Ch       I will lose my apartment.                    

C.B.    I’ll have to move back in with my parents.

U.A.    I won’t be able to stand it.

R.C.    I’m going to flunk this test.                 

Wr.     My whole life will be ruined.

T.H.    Oh, woe is me!

Exaggerate to the point of absolute absurdity.  If you keep tapping while you do that, you will eventually begin to laugh.  Laughter is an excellent way to move energy in a positive direction.  Then you can begin to switch to a more positive scenario:  I am going to pass the exam…  Even if I don’t, I can still pass the course…It isn’t worth worrying about.

Try exaggerating and tapping.  You may get past your fears very quickly that way.  Enjoy the month of March.  I know that I will.

Remember, if you would like to have an EFT session and then gift one to a friend, you can get 2 sessions for the price of one in the month of March if you are one of the first 13 people to ask for the discount.  And start preparing to take the Matrix Reimprinting Workshop in June.  Contact me for more details:  (773) 880-5492 or kiya@eft-tap.com.

If you don’t like something, change it.
If you can’t change it, change your attitude.
Don’t complain.– Maya Angelou

Check out this website. The above quote from Maya Angelou was the inspiration for a simple idea that has been spreading around the world. Put a simple rubber bracelet (or rubber band) on your wrist, and follow these instructions:

1. Begin to wear the bracelet on either wrist.
2. When you find yourself complaining, gossiping or criticizing, move the bracelet to the other wrist and begin again.
3. If you hear someone else wearing a purple bracelet complain, it’s okay to point out their need to switch the bracelet to the other arm: BUT if you are going to do this, you must move your bracelet first! Because you are complaining about their complaining!
4. Stay with it. It will take many months to get to 21 consecutive days. The average is 4 to 8 months!

As usual, I realized that tapping would make the above process easier to follow, and potentially more successful. It is a variation on the method above, but I think there is always a better chance of changing a habit if I change the energy associated with the habit first.

So, try this. Do Step 1 and 2, with the added step of tapping after you change to the other wrist. For example, if I catch myself complaining about the cold weather out loud, I would switch to the other wrist and immediately start tapping:

The last part is a technique I learned from one of the original EFT Masters, Carol Look. She discovered that it sometimes helps to tap back and forth with the conflict involved in giving up a bad habit. If I say on one tapping point: I really want to stop smoking…, I can say on the next tapping point: No, I don’t! and then on the following point: Yes, I do!

I find it useful sometimes to totally acknowledge the ambivalence.

If you would like to try this challenge with me, put a simple bracelet or a rubber band on your wrist and see if you can last a number of days without complaining, criticizing or gossiping. It isn’t easy. It took me a very long time to get past one day! As soon as you switch wrists, you are back to Day 1. There is free “Complaint Free World Widget” that you can download on your computer to help you keep track.

Please e-mail me and tell me how you are doing with this challenge: kiya@eft-tap.com.

Happy New Year,

Kiya

Dear Tapper,

It’s that time of year again: lots of parties, family get-togethers, decorations and good cheer–or not! In my experience, I find a lot more people who are stressed out during this holiday season than people who are joyful about it.

Wouldn’t it be nice to have the eagerness and anticipation of a child in relation to this time of year? I wish that for you, and everyone you love.

If you’d like to give a special gift to someone who could use an “emotional massage,” why not give them an EFT telephone or SKYPE session with me? You can purchase gift certificates for yourself and others at the special rate of “2-for-1.” Call or e-mail me to reserve your gift certificates and I will mail or e-mail a certificate to anyone in the world. My usual fee for a phone session is $130 per hour, but you can buy as many certificates as you wish (before January 1, 2012) for $65 a piece.

Concentrate on what’s good in your life, and tap away the rest. May this holiday be truly merry for you.

Blessings,

Kiya

Everything that happens in your life today will either appear negative or positive. Keep in mind whatever happens must have a positive side to it. A large majority of the population seems to be mentally programmed to pay attention to the negative side of life and unfortunately, ignore the positive. Make a decision right now that, regardless of what happens today, you are going to look for the positive aspect of what’s happening. Remember… every cloud has a silver lining. Do this again tomorrow and the next day until it becomes a habit to see the positive in everything. You will feel better, you will be more productive, and you will have more friends.

Bob Proctor

Bob Proctor is right, of course. We seem to be a society firmly entrenched in the “glass is half empty” approach to life. What’s funny to me is that whenever I challenge a person not to “awfulize” about how terrible the future is going to be, I inevitably get some variation on the answer: “I’m just being realistic!”

Look at that glass again. You can realistically say that it is half-empty, but it is equally realistic to say that it is half-full.

When I read the above quote, my first reaction was: “easier said than done.” Almost immediately, I realized that our wonderful tool, EFT can make it a lot easier to see the positive side of things.

Since most of us seem to be hard-wired to go for the negative, it can seem to be almost impossible to shift gears. With tapping, you get to complain all you want while you tap away the fears, doubts, and insecurities that keep you away from the positive aspects of any situation.

Here’s a Bundling Baggage example for the holidays. (Bundling Baggage is an advanced EFT technique developed by Master Practitioner, Lindsay Kenny that takes a general recurring life theme and allows the person to express different aspects on each tapping point. It can be a wonderful shortcut for getting rid of on-going negative expectations).

I have worked with many clients who “hate the entire holiday season.” Some people extend that time period from Thanksgiving all the way through Valentine’s Day. We start by allowing the person to vent on and on about how awful this holiday is going to be:

(Karate Chop; Eye Brow; Side of Eye; Under Eye; Chin; Collar Bone; Under Arm; Under Breast; Wrists; Top of Head).

After just a few rounds of exaggerating all the anticipated doom and gloom about the holidays, most people are able to laugh at themselves and lighten up a little. Then, it becomes very easy for the person to suddenly see the half-full glass. Then, all the positive aspects can come bubbling up to the surface.

I wish you and yours a very happy, full-glass holiday.

Don’t forget to call or e-mail me to purchase your half price EFT gift certificates for any of your stressed out friends: 773-880-5492 or kiya@eft-tap.com.

Blessings,

Kiya

It’s so easy to focus all the attention for Thanksgiving on turkey, cranberries, and football. All my life, it has been my very favorite holiday. When I was young, my extended family would meet and share food, laughter and stories.

Now that an entire older generation of my family has died, none of the holidays feel the same and I’m thinking of ways to reclaim them in a new way.

One thing I’ve talked about for years is putting the THANKS back in Thanksgiving. I know that asking people around the table to tell what they are thankful for often brings dirty looks—people are embarrassed to share that kind of intimate information, especially in a group.

The funny thing is that it would probably be easy for any group to go around and say what they are NOT thankful for. I can picture a table of relatives and friends of all ages going around and saying:

Silly examples, but I hear strangers on an elevator say things like: What a gloomy day! Cold enough for you? Hot enough for you?

I love to compliment people on elevators: great tie; beautiful necklace you’re wearing; what a beautiful baby. I always get a smile, and I feel good and so do they. Recently, I saw a man on the street wearing an old faded t-shirt. When I got closer, I saw that the faces of all of the famous cartoon heroes were displayed on the shirt. I genuinely meant it when I said: What a cool shirt!

He thanked me and walked away. I wondered if that might have been the only nice thing that anyone said to him in quite awhile.

If you tend to be “hard-wired” for negative thinking, I know that tapping can help cut that wire (or at least get it frayed a little). I suggest starting with the negative. I sometimes tell my clients that they can complain all they want, as long as they tap while they do it. On each tapping point, they get to “awful-ize” their present situation. I encourage them to get very whiney and petty and exaggerate as much as they want. We’ll use the teenage “Nancy” as an example:

When Nancy runs out of things to complain about, I’d go back over the list with her and make it much worse:

Inevitably, as I encourage someone like Nancy to complain all she wants in more and more absurd ways, her mood would tend to lighten and she might even laugh at herself and say: You know, my family isn’t that bad.

Then, and only then, I might suggest a round of what you are grateful for. It wouldn’t work to start that way, but after fully venting the negative feelings, some more positive stuff tends to bubble up to the surface.

I discovered this by accident when I tried out a technique I developed called Revenge Tapping©. One client was so furious with her ex-husband that she couldn’t wait to tap on all the awful things she would do to him (in fantasy, of course). Surprisingly, after only one round of tapping on the fantasy of kicking him, spitting on him, and emptying out his bank account, she stopped and began to cry.

Suddenly, she felt very sorry for him and began to talk about the fact that he was a good father and very successful in his business. She started making excuses for his bad behavior and even remembered some times when she really loved him.

So, eat great food and hang out with good people on Thanksgiving and when you are alone, tap away all the negativity and tap on what you are grateful for: I’m grateful for the red and yellow leaves out my window; I’m grateful for hot fudge sundaes; I’m grateful for the cute things my friend’s grandson says; I’m grateful for friends who enjoy being silly; I’m grateful for friends who like me even when I don’t like myself; I’m grateful for puppies and kittens, etc.

If you can, take a gratitude break every day. It can be just a moment or two when you let go of all the things that “suck” in your life and celebrate the things (however small) that make you smile.

Happy November.

Blessings,

Kiya

I was once asked why I don’t participate in anti-war demonstrations.
I said that I will never do that, but as soon as you have a pro-peace
rally, I’ll be there.
- Mother Teresa

I agree with Mother Teresa. I think it makes a lot more sense to dedicate a month to the awareness of breast health, rather than breast cancer. Sometimes people I train get confused when there seems to be so much emphasis on the negative emotions when it comes to tapping.

Here is the explanation. So often, I work with people who develop an on-going script about their problems: I am very insecure; I don’t fit in anywhere; my life sucks; I’m too old (or too fat or too terminally unique) to find a partner, etc.

The person may repeat these negative opinions repeatedly every day to themselves and to other people. Then, the negative phrase is deeply imbeded in the psyche to the point that the person believes that these negative self-talk statements actually define who they are.

Rather than ignore the negative self-talk, tapping encourages you to repeat the negative statement while tapping so that you can move in the direction of resolution. If we ignore the negative statement, it will fester just underneath the surface. I believe it is the main reason why simple affirmations never seem to work.

If I believe that I am an insecure person and tell myself that is the case, then I will zero in on every occasion when I feel that way as absolute proof that it is “true.” If I repeat the affirmation over and over again: I am a self-assured, confident person, my mind will say right back: No, you’re not!

With tapping, I say the phrase I am very insecure about all kinds of things while I am letting go of the energy connected to the phrase. Then, and only then, can I begin to interject the positive alternative and my subconscious mind will accept it.

For instance, I could say three times on the Karate Chop point: I am very insecure about meeting Lucille for dinner because I’m afraid that I’ll have nothing to say and it makes me feel afraid, inadequate, and tongue-tied. I would measure the intensity of each of those feelings and then come up with a positive statement: Even though —- I have this problem—-and it makes me feel—————, I accept myself anyway.

Then on each tapping point, I can express my insecurities until they begin to fall away. If I said originally that my fear was a “9,” I can check in after several rounds and ask myself: is my fear still a “9?” If the number has moved down, I will keep tapping until I get to a “zero.”

Then, affirmations will actually begin to work because the subconscious will no longer fight the positive statement. I can now say: I am a self-assured, confident person and I will easily have a good conversation with Lucille at dinner.

So, in general for the month of October, I suggest proclaiming the positive name “Breast Health Awareness Month,” while at the same time, be sure to tap away any fears or concerns that come up for you.

During October, remember that any cancer survivor who contacts me is entitled to a free 15 minute consultation and 2 sessions for the price of one.

Contact Kiya at (773) 880-5492 or email me