Merry Christmas + A New Holiday

In the midst of so many holidays:  Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, Christmas and New Year’s, I’ve decided to add another one just for fun.  I’m going to call it:  “Tell Someone You Love Them” Day.  Of course you can say it to your spouse or kids or grandkids, but how about reaching out to people like your favorite teacher, or good friend, or honest mechanic?

How many times a week do you say “I love you?”  I say it to someone every day (or at least to my cats!)  If you live alone and feel somewhat isolated, don’t hesitate to look in the mirror and say: “I love you” to yourself.  If you feel awkward or silly, you can always tap:

Even though I feel foolish saying “I love you” to myself, I’m going to try it anyway…

Then you could try Carol Look’s technique of alternating positive and negative reactions with each tapping point.  While looking in the mirror, you could tap and say:

EYEBROW:                          I love you.

SIDE OF EYE:                     No, I don’t!

UNDER EYE:                       I love you.

UNDER NOSE:                    Don’t be ridiculous!             

CHIN:                                    I love you.

COLLARBONE:                  Look at my fat cheeks!

UNDER ARM:                     I love you.

UNDER BREAST:               No, I don’t!

WRISTS:                               I love you.

TOP OF HEAD:                   I really do love you!

I’m going to call this a “floating holiday.”  You can wake up in the morning and declare:  “Today is my Tell Someone You Love Them holiday.”  Go to the mirror, kiss the glass and say:  I love you!

Then call your Great Aunt Zelda and say:  “Maybe I’ve never said this before, but I just want you to know that I love you!”

You could be done for the day, but you might want to branch out.  Could I really say “I love you” to people in the elevator at work?  Would people think I was crazy?  Maybe I could show love by paying someone’s toll behind me at a toll booth, or letting people get ahead of me in traffic, or at the grocery store.

Try it.  The idea for this “new holiday” came to me when I visited my Mom in the nursing home this week.  At 93, she goes in and out of dementia and sometimes gets very frustrated that she can’t remember things.  Mom was always the kind of person who didn’t easily say “I love you.”  As a child, I longed for those words from her.

This week, she said to me:  I have so much trouble remembering things, but I always remember that I love you!

So, have a very Merry Christmas and Happy Holiday season.  And just to round out this New Holiday I have created (and decided to celebrate today), I want each and every one of my faithful readers to know:  I love you!

Blessings,

Kiya

To speak gratitude is courteous and pleasant, to enact gratitude is generous and noble, but to live gratitude is to touch Heaven.
– Johannes A. Gaertner

I just found this quotation and I thought it was perfect for this day. I am so very grateful for all the people who have touched my life this year. I am grateful for close friends and family, but also for my clients and students who so often teach me as much or more than I teach them.

I am grateful for the opportunities I have had this year to take workshops from some amazing world-wide healers, including Byron Katie, Esther and Jerry Hicks, and Lindsay Kenny.

I am grateful for the spiritual lessons I have learned this year, sometimes in unusual ways. By beginning to accept my mother’s condition (of physical and mental limitations), I have sometimes seen a fiercely independent, intelligent woman accept kind support from caregivers that she often calls her “good friends.”

Just a few days ago, a dear old friend passed away. Although I wasn’t in touch with her in recent years, I remember with great fondness her gentle, loving spirit and great faith. I was told that she faced her own death with great courage and acceptance because she believed without question that her life would continue on another plane.

What are you grateful for? I would love to know.

Blessings,

Kiya

Have you ever noticed how words tend to lose their meaning when they are overused? I am curious what the percentage might be of people in the United States who actually celebrate the “Thanksgiving” part of Thanksgiving Day?

For many of us, “Turkey Day” is probably more accurate. Unless we are vegetarians, we will probably get together with friends and family and eat a meal that includes turkey. Even many homeless people tend to find shelters where turkey is served on this upcoming holiday.

But do we ever take the time to reflect on what we are thankful for? I envision a day when the wonderful tool of tapping will be so widespread that no one would think it was at all strange for a group of people sitting around a table to tap about the things they are grateful for.

I have mentioned before the variation on the Choices Method that includes a gratitude list. Wouldn’t it be great to start a whole new tradition on Thanksgiving that includes both gratitude and tapping? You could go around the table and have each person add to the list of things they are grateful for. The whole group could be tapping on each point while repeating what each person said.

Here’s a hypothetical example:

EYEBROW:Aunt Bea: I am grateful for this lovely gathering of good friends.
Everyone: I am grateful for this lovely gathering of good friends.

SIDE OF EYE: Uncle Fester: I am grateful for all this great food.
Everyone: Tap and Repeat.

UNDER EYE: Howdy Doody: I am grateful for the great weather in November.
Everyone: Tap and Repeat.

UNDER NOSE: Clarabell: I am grateful for the changing of the leaves.
Everyone: Tap and Repeat.

CHIN: Garfield Goose: I am grateful for the sunsets over the Lake.
Everyone: Tap and Repeat.

COLLARBONE: Kukla: I am grateful for my good health.
Everyone: Tap and Repeat.

UNDER ARM: Fran: I am grateful for the support of my friends.
Everyone: Tap and Repeat.

TOP OF HEAD: Ollie: I am grateful for my cats purring.
Everyone: Tap and Repeat.

These are all very simple examples. What are you grateful for this Thanksgiving? Try tapping on your list (either alone or with a group) and notice how the energy of gratitude grows with each tap.

I am personally grateful for my family, friends, colleagues, students and clients who have made this past year filled with creativity, love and learning. The power of positive energy far outweighs any negative messages out in the world.

Come tap with me! The once-a-month Borrowing Benefits tapping group is meeting this Monday, November 16, 2009 from 6 PM until 8 PM. The cost is $50. The “Law of Attraction in Action” workshop will be held on Saturday, November 21, 2009 from 10 AM until Noon. The cost is $50. Both events are on the north side of Chicago. Call for questions and to reserve your space:
(773) 880-5492.

Blessings,

Kiya

Kiya being interviewed about tapping techniques on “Inner Quest,”  a TV show in Chicago, Part 1.

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Kiya on TV talking about tapping with kids.

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Conclusion of Kiya’s TV interview about tapping techniques.

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 Terabytes and Me…

Nothing seems to push me further into the 21^stCentury than upgrades on cell phones and “new-fangled” gadgets for computers. 

A friend just set me up with a computer storage “thingy” that will store all of my files, all of my pictures and all of my programs with lots and lots of space to spare.  When she told me that it had some “terabytes” of memory, I really thought she was making that up.  I still remember my first computer:  an old clunker with something like 60 RAM of memory (whatever that means).  It was already outdated when I got it.  When it died a few years later and I asked my “computer guy” what to do with it, he said:  Throw it out the window!

All of this has very little to do with tapping, except that I think it can be scary for some of us early Baby Boomers (or War Babies) to deal with our constantly changing world.  When I see my single digit great-grand-nephews and nieces easily do things on a computer that baffle me, I am tempted to tap:

Even though I feel like an idiot when it comes to technology….

Even though I think that I am too old to learn any of this stuff…

Even though I’m afraid that I will be left behind in this “brave new world”…..

I totally and completely love, accept, and forgive myself anyway!

A lot of new stuff is happening in the world of tapping.  I am reading an exciting new book:  EFT and Beyond that is a compilation of articles by many of the EFT Masters dealing with many new innovations that go way beyond Original EFT.  I am beginning to use their new term more and more:  MTT (Meridian Tapping Techniques), an umbrella term for all of the tapping techniques including EFT.

I am teaching my first MTT Workshop in Chicago on Saturday, October 24, 2009 from

10 AM until 5 PM.  The cost is $100 for the 6 hour class. You will learn (or review) basic EFT plus lots more.  Space is limited so please e-mail or call me if you would like to attend.  I am offering special discounts to all my former students.  Call: (773) 880-5492 or e-mail: kiya@eft-tap.com to reserve your space.  The discounts apply if you register by October 15, 2009.  The class is conveniently located at 1726 W. Belmont (near Belmont and Lincoln).  It is easily accessible by public transportation and it is one of the few places left in Chicago without metered parking. I hope to see you there. 

Blessings,

Kiya